Mbak T just called me this morning after Eid Adha prayer, she asked me where can she mail her wedding invitation to. Yay! More friends tying the knot!
I remember few months ago she called me and curhat about G the British boy yang ngajakin dia kawin hehe…
“Gw sih cintaaa banget sama dia, you know how sweet and good looking he is! It’s the nicest man on planet earth about to make a lifetime commitment with me in Tirtha Uluwatu with its beautiful catwalk… chapel… whatever…’
“So? What stops you?”
“Lu tau kan kita beda agama, Rul. Gw takut nyesel belakangan…”
“Duh Mbak… lu yang paling tau lah… apa yg paling baik buat lo…”
“Justru itu makanya gw nelponin semua orang di address book gw nih, buat minta saran, nasehat… apa lah, am facing a dead end”
“Lo yakin Mbak? Coz my deepest thought probably something that your ears refused to hear…”
“Nggak papa, just spit it out!”
“Gw nggak recommend lo marrying G. Bcoz I believe when we grow older somehow we will have a moment when we are very much into the religious part in our life. And marrying someone who’s having a different belief would probably make you… -how to say this delicately- saddened and distress… and in the end that will lead you to a feeling where you regret what you’ve decided in the past.
A friend of mine whose wife and kids are in different belief once told me how he regrets what he did. He said he used to love her, they were young and free and everything seemed to be very much pleasant and trouble-free, he knows he marry the woman for her appearance and he proud with it. Now as he grows older he realized that things have changed and so does his needs. Appearance will not be around forever, what he wants now is taking his wife, son and daughter to Mekkah, have a breakfasting together in Holy Month, do Sholat Maghrib together at home…, and when he died he expects his son to be in the front Shaf nyolatin dia... but he couldn't do that, his wife won’t change her belief and in my opinion you’re not suppose to convert just because you love someone but because you believe it.
Say you are a Catholic i believe you want to go to Mass with complete family member.. with all your loved ones. Now if you wish to hear from him directly he's willing to give a testimonial.. basically he wants to help people to avoid taking a wrong life time decission. I can arrange you two talk.”
I haven’t heard anything from her since that. I thought she was married to G. This morning she told me that she had broke up with G and then in August she went umroh and met this Aceh-born businessman in Masjidil Haram. I said ‘what a miracle!!’. And most importantly she sounds so happy and worry-free. I feel relief.
All right then, off to Citos now. Have a nice holiday all!! I’ll fly to Lombok tomorrow and if you need anything from the island just gimme a buzz, I’ll bill you later hahaha.
Selamat Hari Raya Idul Adha… I celebrate it today.
Semoga Qurban kita membahagiakan mereka dan menambah ketaqwaan kita.
Amen to that.
